From Numbing to Humming by Embracing Emotions to Enhance Your Mood

Do you have a cue that reflects you are tuned in? And even another cue that can be a flag for when you are in your little self?

My tuned in cue is when song comes from within me and I started playing with using song to get me tuned back in when I am in my little self, the closed off, and disconnected state I can get into sometimes.

Training Your Brain for Success

One of the most common challenges I hear from my clients, and something I work on regularly myself, is how to get our brains working for us rather than against us. How do we ask open-ended questions, listen to the ideas our brain comes up with, and then bring those ideas into reality? For example, one of the things I’ve had to train my brain on is not waking me up in the middle of the night with great ideas. Instead, I encourage my brain to give me those ideas at more convenient times and then focus on how to implement them.

Interrupting the Default of Numbing

A concept that came to me recently is how to interrupt the default behavior of numbing and avoiding pain and discomfort. When we numb out—whether by eating, drinking, or distracting ourselves—we diminish our energy levels and brain function, leading to exhaustion. One of the most important things we can do is come into a better relationship with our emotions in a way that energizes us, keeps our internal space decluttered, and maintains a high vibrational state.

The Power of Singing

For me, a marker of being in a good relationship with my feelings is singing. When I’m walking and a song comes to me, it’s a sign that I’m showing up for myself and dealing with life rather than pushing things aside. This idea of “start humming, stop numbing” suggests that we can use song and creativity to gauge our emotional state. When we’re feeling locked up and lacking vibrancy, it’s a cue to get curious about what’s going on inside.

Leaning Into Emotions

It’s normal to avoid feelings and cope by numbing, but by creating an intentional relationship with our emotions, we can start to lean in and get curious. For instance, I’m currently dealing with some sadness and grief over a relationship I deeply care about. Part of me wants to avoid this sadness, but instead, I’m choosing to bring song into my experience of these emotions.

Singing to Emotions

Imagine asking yourself, “What would this sadness sound like if it had a song?” By tuning in and singing to our emotions, we give them the attention they need to move through us. Emotions only take 30 to 90 seconds to truly feel, and when we do, it re-energizes us. This process doesn’t make the sadness disappear, but it helps it move through us, allowing us to live more fully and vibrantly.

Re-Energization Through Emotion

Here’s what happens when we tune into our feelings: a re-energization. This isn’t just a word; it’s a feeling of energy returning to our bodies. By embracing our emotions, we expand our emotional spectrum and open up to a fuller human experience. The pain doesn’t go away, but our energy returns, helping us live at a higher vibration.

Share Your Practices

I’m curious about your practices for managing hard emotions and energy. Do you have any intentional methods? I’d love to hear your tricks and tips. And if you’re up for it, try singing to your emotions and see what happens. Share your experiences with me, and let’s continue this journey together.

With love,
Coach Chandra