90 minutes
90-minute deep session
The recommended starting point — the deeper session for the parent who wants room for the body, inherited belief, and inner-child layers.
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Coaching · Parenting
Trusted Parenting Coach for Parents to Gain Confidence
You already know parenting is the deepest personal-growth work of your life. The patterns you absorbed from how you were parented. The values you want to embody but find yourself overriding when your nervous system is in high gear. The way your own healing is the thing your kids are quietly downloading every day.
The Work
What a Parenting Coach Does for Growth-Focused Parents
Parent coaching is not therapy and it is not behavior coaching for your child. It is a forward-focused coaching container for the parent — the one whose body, mind, and lineage shape the family dynamics every day.
A parenting coach who works the way I do does three things at once:
She helps you identify and embody your core parenting values — love, kindness, respect, presence, clear boundaries — so the values you say you want to live by become the ones your kids actually experience.
She helps you regulate your own nervous system, so the body cues your body sends (the tightening, the rushing, the bracing, the going-quiet) become the signals you respond to instead of the patterns that run you.
And she helps you interrupt generational patterns — the ones you absorbed from how you were parented — before they become the next generation's inheritance.
That is the work. The parent is the system. The system shifts when the parent shifts.
Why It's Hard
Why Most Parenting Help Stops Short
You have probably read the books. The frameworks are good, and they will keep being good. What the books cannot do is metabolize the body-level patterns running underneath the techniques you already know.
When you are dysregulated, your prefrontal cortex — the part of your brain that runs scripts, holds effective communication choices, and weighs values against impulses — goes partially offline. Your primal brain takes over. In that state, no amount of cognitive parenting content lands. You can know the technique and still not have access to it when it matters.
This is a nervous-system issue. It is also an unconscious belief-system issue. Beliefs like I have to keep everyone happy, I cannot let my kid down, I have to be in control, kids should obey run quietly underneath the patterns. Either layer alone is incomplete. Both have to be met for the loop to actually shift.
What does this look like in your own body? What surge, what tightening, what shutdown shows up before the moment goes sideways? Naming the cue is the first move. The next is practicing — in low-stakes moments, with the support of a coach — until the new pattern lives in your body, not just in your head.
You can read more about the nervous-system layer of this work if you want the deeper methodology underneath.
Cycle Breaker Work
Embody the Values You Want Your Kids to Inherit
You are almost certainly a Cycle Breaker. You are the one in your lineage choosing — consciously — to interrupt patterns your mother could not, your father could not, your grandparents could not.
That is not small work. That is the work that re-routes how your whole family functions across future generations.
It is also lonely work. Your parents may not understand it. Your siblings may resent it. Your partner may or may not be doing it alongside you. And the kid in front of you has no idea you are spending your adult life unhooking yourself from inherited patterns so you can hand them something different.
In our coaching together we map those patterns out loud — the ones you absorbed, the ones leaking forward, the ones you are ready to transmute at your generation. We move slowly, with a lot of compassion, until the new pattern lives in your body and your kid receives it as the new default.
Your children are downloading your nervous system. Every day. The most powerful thing you can do for them is the work you are already on the path of doing.
You can read more about healing generational patterns if you want to go deeper.
The Session
What Happens in a 1:1 Coaching Session
Sessions are 1:1, video-based, and tailored to the specific moments you are currently navigating with your child. The work is not one-size-fits-all and not formulaic — but a few components tend to weave through most of our sessions together.
Your body and nervous system. We pay attention to what is happening in your nervous system in real time. Are you rushing? Bracing? Going quiet? Working with your body first changes what is even possible in the rest of the session — because if we skip that layer, the work stays in your head.
The belief running underneath. We look at the unconscious belief sitting beneath the reactivity. I have to be on time. I cannot let them down. I have to keep everyone happy. Kids should obey. These beliefs are not facts. They are inherited patterns, and they almost always trace back further than this generation.
Parenting your own inner child while you parent your actual child. A lot of what surfaces in this work is the parent inside you who needed something they did not get. We tend to that child alongside the present-moment work with your kid — both move at the same time.
Practice and homework that fits your week. I send you home with specific homework to practice between sessions — usually one piece of what we worked on, in a low-stakes moment, until the new pattern starts to live in your body.
Real Clients
Results parents see
This work does not make you a different parent. It returns you to the parent you already know how to be when you are regulated and present.
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The awareness I've gained from this program is profound and continues to expand every day. I've walked away with powerful life tools that I can share with my daughters and use for the rest of my life.
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Before working with Chandra I felt like a boat aimlessly floating without a rudder. I now show up for myself, my kids, my partner, my grandkids, and my business the way that I want to: grounded, present, calm, patient, and trusting.
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I have a whole new relationship with stress and my emotions. The people in my life notice my changes. I did a lot of this work for my kid and grandkid (and for me).
Who It's For
Who This Coaching Is For
This page is for you if:
- You are already doing the work on yourself and you can feel that parenting is the next layer.
- You have already read the gentle parenting books, taken the courses, listened to the podcasts. You like them. They are also not enough on their own when your body keeps overriding what you know.
- You recognize the patterns running through you came from how you were parented, and you want to interrupt them before they become your child's inheritance.
- You feel like your kid is struggling, and you want to support them — and you sense that part of what helps is your own work.
- You are parenting a younger child, a teenager, or a young adult — the body of this work scales across every stage.
This page is probably not for you if:
- You are looking for techniques to deploy on your child to get a specific behavior, and you do not yet want to look at your own patterns.
- You want tactical scripts to memorize. I will give you specific tools, but the tools live in your body, not in a flashcard.
- You do not yet see your own nervous system as part of the dynamic. That is a fine place to be — it just means the right next step is education, not coaching yet.
Begin Together
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Most parents start with a single 60 or 90-minute session. Either one credits toward a coaching package if you decide later you want ongoing work together.
60 minutes
60-minute coaching session
For the parent who wants to bring one specific situation, work with the body, and walk away with one piece of homework to take into your week.
Book a 60-min sessionNot ready for a full session? Book a free 15-minute intro instead — a short, no-pressure conversation to see if this work is the right fit.
Sessions are 1:1, video-based, from the comfort of your own home. Pricing is shared on your booking confirmation.
Common Questions
Questions, answered
Is parent coaching the same as therapy?
No. Therapy — including family therapy with a licensed family therapist or work with a school counselor on your child's behalf — is the right container for processing past traumas, diagnosing mental-health conditions, and working with a clinician who can prescribe or refer. Parent coaching is a forward-focused container. We start where you are, work on the present-day patterns you are ready to interrupt, and build practical skills you use this week. A number of my clients have said that this coaching feels more effective than therapy for them — especially parents who have already done meaningful therapy work and want a forward-focused next step.
What if my co-parent is not doing this work with me?
You can shift a family system from one chair. It is easier when both parents are doing the work; it is also not required. Most of the parents I coach are working solo, and the shift in the room when one nervous system settles is real and measurable. Your child's behavior will respond to your regulation regardless of where your co-parent is in their own parenting journey.
Do you take insurance?
No. This is a private-pay practice. Some clients with PPO plans get partial reimbursement from their insurance company for coaching-adjacent services, but that is something to verify directly — I do not bill insurance companies, and possible reimbursement is not guaranteed. The reason I work this way: it gives both of us full ownership of the work, with no diagnostic codes, no session caps, and no third party in the room.
My child has specific behavioral challenges — ADHD, anxiety, sensory needs, neurodivergence. Can you still help?
Yes, with one important caveat. I am not a child therapist, a school counselor, or a behavioral specialist for your child. What I do is coach the parent who is regulating alongside a child with those emotional needs. If your child needs clinical support — child therapy, an evaluation, a family therapist — you will want that on a separate track. The work of staying regulated, present, and resourced as the parent of a child with specific needs is real, and it is exactly the work we do together.
How do I know if I am ready?
If you can feel that the work is in you — not in your kid — and you are willing to look at your own patterns honestly, you are ready. You do not need to have your nervous system already settled. You need to be willing to look at it.
How long do most parents work with you?
There is no required number of sessions or number of years. Some parents come in for one focused stretch and leave with what they needed. Some work with me weekly across a season of their family life. Some come back every quarter for a tune-up. The container is built to flex around your family's needs and busy schedules — sessions are by video from the comfort of your own home.
Work With Me
The path forward
I work in two coaching pathways, both of which rest on the Mood Before Food methodology. Functional Embodiment is the path that holds the parenting work — nervous-system regulation, relationships, time, self-coaching, and plant medicine integration. Food and Mood is the body-first regulation foundation, anchored in food psychology and emotional eating. Both heal generational patterns. Both help you embody the values you want your kids to inherit.
"The first big step is awareness."
— Zen Odyssey: The Adventure of Awareness
— Chandra Zas
